LOVE

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” ~ Rumi

Love…ah!..the elusive Holy Grail. It is February, the month that hosts Valentine’s Day, where one day a year we focus on love. I find that curious, when it seems obvious that there isn’t a day that goes by that we don’t each look at our barometer of love to see where our lovability is registering. What to do when we feel unlovable?

Perhaps imagine this lovely glow emanating from your heart chakra. Now imagine that when you give love to another, a bit of that lovely heart chakra radiance is given to the other. If that place of unconditional love is not tended to, that lovely glow may begin to dim. With each act of love, a spark of your divine self is gifted to another. To keep the lovelight glowing, it must be replenished with unconditional love for yourself. This is your responsibility.

Loving yourself first is the most important act in which you can engage if you want to feel happy and content in this journey. You deserve to be loved. You only get one turn being central casted as yourself. You are unique and exactly who you elected to be during this experience. How about that? The responsibility to respect, honor and love that discerning choice belongs to you. It is your job, not someone else’s to make you feel loveable and valuable. If you are looking for love, the time to own that sacred responsibility is now. Is it selfish?

The stark truth is that there is nothing heroic about trying to be there for others while ignoring yourself or hoping and waiting for others to make you feel loved.

Taking the responsibility to love yourself will create a different energy about you. Doing so will afford you the gifts of those around you who respond positively to this energy. Some of these gifts will mirror your voyage into authenticity with respect and admiration. Some gifts, on the other hand, may be the knowledge that it’s okay not to be loved by everyone.

Prioritizing your divine self seems to clear the way to recognizing and moving beyond those in your life who feel empty, parasitic and perhaps toxic. Putting this practice into your life will inevitably inspire someone else to do the same. We all have times when we look to someone to pave the way, to encourage us and to exemplify a truth that we know and can recognize deep within ourselves. It’s a win-win situation.

So, this Valentine’s Day, and more importantly, every day, ask yourself “will you be mine?” Then listen for a resounding and deeply satisfying “Yes! I thought you’d never ask!”

Stop defining yourself by your failures. Love the you that you are regardless of any mistakes. Congratulate and acknowledge the times you get back up and keep going. You are amazing.

You are loveable and valuable just the way you are.

Improve your life and change the world by falling madly in love with yourself!

Namaste friend, I love you.

P.S. If you are looking to understand the ways in which you have learned to feel loved, and perhaps to understand the ways in which those close to you may register feeling loved, consider looking into the Languages of Love. Here’s a great website to get you started: https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/